Comments on: When Women Mess Up http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/ Enjoy being single - it's fun. Wed, 30 Dec 2009 14:56:14 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: JV http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8118 JV Tue, 14 Jul 2009 01:06:21 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8118 I guess it takes a crazy to marry a crazy... All kidding a side I've been on plenty of dates where the girl certainly was the one screwing up. Not that I haven't blundered many times myself, it happens. Just one experience I'd like to share: Nothing cooler then the perfect girl claiming her future spouse will minimally learn twice a week and nothing less(she wouldn't settle with a guy who learnt less than)... and of course knowing all to well this was the gong that chimed the end of the developing relationship I felt compelled to humor myself and inquire if that meant 1 hour today and one tomorrow, or could he if busy just pile it all in 2 hours today and none tomorrow for his weekly quota.. Or could he just do 15 minutes today and 15 minutes tomorrow.. I think that's twice right?!... Well that was the last date with that girl... not bad considering it was a 3rd date. I guess it takes a crazy to marry a crazy…

All kidding a side I’ve been on plenty of dates where the girl certainly was the one screwing up. Not that I haven’t blundered many times myself, it happens.

Just one experience I’d like to share:
Nothing cooler then the perfect girl claiming her future spouse will minimally learn twice a week and nothing less(she wouldn’t settle with a guy who learnt less than)… and of course knowing all to well this was the gong that chimed the end of the developing relationship I felt compelled to humor myself and inquire if that meant 1 hour today and one tomorrow, or could he if busy just pile it all in 2 hours today and none tomorrow for his weekly quota.. Or could he just do 15 minutes today and 15 minutes tomorrow.. I think that’s twice right?!…
Well that was the last date with that girl… not bad considering it was a 3rd date.

]]> By: bad4shidduchim http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8052 bad4shidduchim Sun, 05 Jul 2009 23:09:32 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8052 Eyuuuuw! Eyuuuuw!

]]> By: Mark http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8048 Mark Sun, 05 Jul 2009 03:36:21 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8048 I have a friend that was at a shabbat lunch with a bunch of other friends, including me, in Haifa. Well, there was this bottle of buffalo grass vodka (vile stuff, in my opinion), and apparently he partook of too much of it, and apparently his stomach revolted. He threw up a little on one of the girls, and a lot in the hallway on the way to the WC, and a little in the WC. She helped clean up, they dated, they married. What a love story! I have a friend that was at a shabbat lunch with a bunch of other friends, including me, in Haifa. Well, there was this bottle of buffalo grass vodka (vile stuff, in my opinion), and apparently he partook of too much of it, and apparently his stomach revolted. He threw up a little on one of the girls, and a lot in the hallway on the way to the WC, and a little in the WC. She helped clean up, they dated, they married. What a love story!

]]> By: yoni http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8041 yoni Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:41:05 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8041 oops, i meant litteraly sleeping, not a euphamism! oops, i meant litteraly sleeping, not a euphamism!

]]> By: yoni http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8040 yoni Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:40:07 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8040 besides, isn't eating at a small table with a niddah assur? (yes, even if she's not your wife, its the same thing basicaly as eating out of the same plate, and according to most authorities i've red, halachicaly equivelent to sleeping with her, hugging her, or being in yichud with her) besides, isn’t eating at a small table with a niddah assur? (yes, even if she’s not your wife, its the same thing basicaly as eating out of the same plate, and according to most authorities i’ve red, halachicaly equivelent to sleeping with her, hugging her, or being in yichud with her)

]]> By: yoni http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8039 yoni Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:38:57 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8039 how about following the articles of general etiquette and therefore DON'T EAT WITH YOUR MOUTH FULL! how about following the articles of general etiquette and therefore DON’T EAT WITH YOUR MOUTH FULL!

]]> By: ClooJew http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8038 ClooJew Fri, 03 Jul 2009 05:54:12 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8038 Great advice. Also this: Don't spit up on your date! True story: I was on one of the first dates of my career and took the young lady to a chinese restaurant. Chinese means rice. So we're eating and we're talking and when you eat and talk simultaneously, sometimes that doesn't go over too well for you. And I quickly found myself with a few grains of rice that went down the wrong way. She's talking and I'm choking. I nod my head as she describes some aspect of her life and, as delicately as I could, I try to clear my throat and bring up those few renegade kernels of rice without alerting my lovely date. But suddenly my throat constricts and I cough violently, spitting the rice at her like machine-gun fire. She was shocked, then she laughed. She agreed to go out with me again, but we didn't get married. The moral of the story is...I'm still not quite sure, but somehow I'm convinced spaghetti would be worse. Great advice.

Also this: Don’t spit up on your date!

True story: I was on one of the first dates of my career and took the young lady to a chinese restaurant. Chinese means rice. So we’re eating and we’re talking and when you eat and talk simultaneously, sometimes that doesn’t go over too well for you. And I quickly found myself with a few grains of rice that went down the wrong way.

She’s talking and I’m choking.

I nod my head as she describes some aspect of her life and, as delicately as I could, I try to clear my throat and bring up those few renegade kernels of rice without alerting my lovely date. But suddenly my throat constricts and I cough violently, spitting the rice at her like machine-gun fire.

She was shocked, then she laughed. She agreed to go out with me again, but we didn’t get married.

The moral of the story is…I’m still not quite sure, but somehow I’m convinced spaghetti would be worse.

]]> By: yoni http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8031 yoni Thu, 02 Jul 2009 18:11:43 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8031 (I am of the opinion that observing someones driving habits is about the closest one can come to getting a direct picture of whether or not they are a yirat shemayim, and an honest, upright, ethical person and reasonable spouse. if they are rude, impatient, foul mouthed, reckless, speed, or anything of the sort, you can be fairly sure that they are not marriagable material, and should stay away from them. (I am of the opinion that observing someones driving habits is about the closest one can come to getting a direct picture of whether or not they are a yirat shemayim, and an honest, upright, ethical person and reasonable spouse.

if they are rude, impatient, foul mouthed, reckless, speed, or anything of the sort, you can be fairly sure that they are not marriagable material, and should stay away from them.

]]> By: yoni http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8030 yoni Thu, 02 Jul 2009 18:09:09 +0000 http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/when-women-mess-up/#comment-8030 A quite frankly, if the man asks her about her size, she has every right to ask him how much he is making, and reject him if the number isn't high enough. secondly, if a date is not driving responsible a date has every right (and obligaton) to inform him that he will take her home immediately, and she will not continue the date with him, and if he does not, she will ensure that everyone knows this bochur is an unscrupulous lout and should be stayed away from. also, i'm honestly not suprised that bochur is still single, he has quite the ego complex, not much room for another person in that heart of his. A quite frankly, if the man asks her about her size, she has every right to ask him how much he is making, and reject him if the number isn’t high enough. secondly, if a date is not driving responsible a date has every right (and obligaton) to inform him that he will take her home immediately, and she will not continue the date with him, and if he does not, she will ensure that everyone knows this bochur is an unscrupulous lout and should be stayed away from.

also, i’m honestly not suprised that bochur is still single, he has quite the ego complex, not much room for another person in that heart of his.

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