I hate having to decide when to go to weddings.
Okay, I don’t decide. I never decide. I always go to the second half. It seems to me that that is the important time to be there; if all I have to do is show my face and say mazal tov at the reception, then I am unnecessary and won’t bother.
But I’m always disappointed to miss the shmorg. I mean, let’s face it, that’s the best food of the evening. Why do the face-showers get it instead of the dancers?
My suggestion: reverse the food. Serve the standard boring chicken and grilled veggies to the mazal-tovers at the reception, and bring out the good stuff after the chupah. Buffet dinner style. Yum.
Note to self: add to list of improvement to implement at own wedding (which will, indubitably, never happen).
Don’t despair–we went to a Bar Mitzvah which had the food served just as you want–a smorgasbord type dinner instead of a plated dinner. Everyone loved it. This is one thing it might be worth getting stubborn for–they can have orange roses and you get a smorg instead of a dinner.
Comment by Prof K — November 25, 2009 @ 9:16 pm
Hey Bad4, how come no post on this yet?
http://theyeshivaworld.com/news/General+News/42576/Meet+Your+Bashert+Over+‘Video+Conferencing’+-+ShidduchVision,+Approved+By+Gedolim.html
Comment by anon — November 25, 2009 @ 11:28 pm
I second that. Thats why I end up doing shmorg + chuppah + firstdance then leave. Costs them nothing, but I’ve showed up and done my part.. if its a good friend I completely don’t mind skipping eating later… save em $75 and save my dancing stomach…
Comment by Bz — November 25, 2009 @ 11:29 pm
I always thought the most important part of the wedding was the chupa…
Comment by lawschooldrunk — November 26, 2009 @ 12:15 am
was just discussing this at the last class wedding i attended – VERY FEW PEOPLE COME FOR THE CHUPPAH ITS EMBARRASSING: A) chuppah is the imp part but lets face it the kallah has more imp things to think about and could really care less if you came ( provided you are not a close friend)
B) She doesnt see you so you cant leave C) she would rather you be there for dancing …..
but then we return to the original problem of attending the chuppah
oh well not all lifes probs can be solved……
Comment by eyysdam — November 26, 2009 @ 12:36 am
Must remember to use indubitably in Court, at least once. And I’d rather have the chicken dinner if given a choice of when to show up.
Comment by Attorney for Hire — November 26, 2009 @ 7:57 am
Bad4, you need 2 meals? Good, because I don’t want to pay for 2 meals. Here’s my plan: serve coffee and kichel before the chuppa, and serve the shmorg as you suggested.
Comment by tesyaa — November 26, 2009 @ 8:36 am
tesyaa – I love your wedding already.
anon – I have nothing (good) to say about it, so I’m not.
About the chupa – nobody important (read: the bride/groom) knows or cares if you’re there (unless she’s reserved jewelry for you at the expense of her cousins which crime I apparently once committed). Whereas, the important persons would like you there for the second dance (as the first one is crowded with those pesky relatives and family friends you couldn’t insult). Since weddings aren’t scheduled upon my convenience, I usually don’t have all night to dedicate to attendance, so I come for the latter half.
Comment by bad4shidduchim — November 26, 2009 @ 12:37 pm
I just skip ‘em completely. Works best for me.
Comment by Something Different — November 26, 2009 @ 1:29 pm
Note to self: add to list of improvement to implement at own wedding (which will, indubitably, never happen). – It does help to have a Chassan before making wedding plans. Great sense of humor, so the solution is simple, just assume you’ll never get married and then, then you’ll meet a great guy.
Comment by Leibel — November 26, 2009 @ 3:31 pm
Here in E”Y only the reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally fancy shmancy yeshivish weddings have shmorgs. The most yeshivish ones you’re lucky to get stale cake before the chupa.
We compromised. No full shmorg, but we had sushi before the chupah. And we had a platter of hot dogs in a blanket (best part of a shmorg) on every table as people were seated.
Comment by Miriam — November 26, 2009 @ 6:12 pm
Note to self: add to list of improvement to implement at own wedding (which will, indubitably, never happen).
head-desk-head-desk.
Wow, that was bad. I meant that the list of improvements will probably never happen, not that my wedding probably won’t. Though, I guess, if I eloped next week, that statement wouldn’t be false either.
Comment by bad4shidduchim — November 26, 2009 @ 8:39 pm
Though, I guess, if I eloped next week, that statement wouldn’t be false either. – That also requires a Chassan, you should work on getting one of those first before making up your mind about wedding ceremony vs. eloping. Besides being cynical is fun….
Comment by Leibel — November 26, 2009 @ 11:19 pm