I’d like to suggest a new policy. Whenever someone says “im yirtza Hashem by you” with their head slightly tilted and their voice overly kind, punch them in the nose.
We have to show zero tolerance for this attack on our dignity. People must learn to stop ladeling out the pity. We don’t want it.
(We don’t, right?)
Honestly, I don’t object to the occasional “im yirtza Hashem” tossed offhandedly by someone being polite or just saying what’s correct. It bothers me most when the person means it. When they give you that look, half appraising half pitying, full of compassion and consideration. To which you are expected to reply with a heartfelt “Amen!”
If we all started punching them in the nose, rest assured, people would hesitate a second before dishing out the sympathy.