Buy a sheitel and/or tallis: A friend told me her sister invested in this rather expensive “segula” (source unknown). “Did it work?” I asked. “Well she got engaged six months later,” she shrugged. That reminds me of… well, the way a lot of segulos work.
I don’t really understand the rationale behind this one. Murphy’s Law would state that buying a sheitel or tallis would immediately disqualify someone from getting married at least until the sheitel goes out of style or the tallis becomes yellow. Perhaps the point is to prove that you are completely ready to get married, now would God please just send the guy already? Then again, surely there must be better ways to demonstrate your readiness—maybe by going an entire week without getting snappish, for example, or by losing arguments graciously.
Give money to hachnasas kallah: Charity is always good for a quick and easy zechus, and hachnasas kallah is up there in the list of things you get rewarded for in this world too, so if anything sounds promising, this would be it.
Holding the bride’s jewelery during the chupah: I’m not exactly sure that this is really a segula. Meaning, some say holding the jewelery is a segula, but they don’t specify what for. Other people say of course it’s a segula for getting married, but most of them are assuming, and have no source. Again (as usual) I don’t know the source for this one, but one incredibly fun result of it is that every bride attends her wedding laden with jewelery so she can distribute it to all her single friends before the chupah.
Standing under the chupah/holding the pole: according to this segula, no photographer should stay single for long, since they tend to take the central position under the chupah and let everyone else slot themselves in around them. The bochurim honored with singing under the chupah should come in next. I would be interested in a study correlating this phenomenon. Considering that people are usually spilling out around the edges as it is, I wouldn’t recommend trying this segula unless you’re practically family or unless you don’t care about getting nasty looks. Hey, if you’re desperate…
Say Shir HaShirim for 40 days straight. Alternative: have 40 people say Shir Hashirim Friday night after candle lighting. (Or is it to say Shir Hashirim 40 times, but people get around it with groups? Or does it not matter, as long as it combines Shir Hashirim and 40?)
I presume there’s a source for this one, because I can’t imagine what else would induce anyone to consider a casual reading of Shir HaShirim a recommended pastime. But maybe it’s like Eshes Chayil in that way: you know how young married men like to sing Eshes Chayil to their wives, who just lap it up? Do any of them actually listen to the words? I cringe at the thought of being compared to that yardstick. I’m convinced that at some point my husband is going to wake up and say, “Waitasec: Bad4 doesn’t do that for me! I’ve been cheated!”
Anyway, back to Shir HaShirim, this little segula is not to be disdained, for it has positively contributed to the Orthodox economy, what with pre-divided booklets and mini pocket versions so you need never be caught without your Shir HaShirim.
And does it work? Well, as one friend told me, “Sure it does! I got engaged on my fourth round of 40 days.” That’s a marginally better rate than six months for a sheitel and tallis (if you’re counting days. If you’re counting repetitions of the segula, it’s not better at all), and you get to learn some Kesuvim for the same price. Sounds good to me.
Collect broken plates from the engagement and marriage: I found this one on hashkafa.com, along with the following comment: “[T]he segulah is to collect a plate piece – any size – from different tnoyim plates. It worked for me… I got engaged pretty soon after my 7th plate I think.” ‘Nuff said, I think.
It seems people attribute a magical power – er, segula – to almost anything to do with the wedding. Drinking from the cup under the chupah is also cited as a segula, though there are plenty of single walking around that can disprove it.
Even more forthcoming.