I, personally, do not mind being single. It is something I mention every so often, though it scandalizes not a few. Just a couple of weeks ago, I found myself sandwhiched between two high school girls who were analyzing my hashkafos and concluding that something was deeply wrong, because of this attitude of mine.
My argument is that a person can do a lot while single. Both ordinary, worldly fun things, and religious/spiritual things. I pointed out that it was possible to fulfill a spiritual tachlis without a husband – look at Sarah Schneirer – and that I enjoy my unburdened, footloose lifestyle (well, between semesters, anyway).
I don’t go around trying to proselytize singles to my views. I only mention them here, and and when someone asks, “But don’t you want to get married?” My answer is: “I guess so. I don’t think about it much.” Why focus on what you don’t have when you have so much?
But apparently, my ideas are only shocking to singles and high school girls, and maybe long-married women. Either that, or they’re lying through their teeth out of pity. Apparently, because Bas Melech, over here, is annoyed by marrieds telling her to enjoy being single because it’s so much more fun than being married. Bas Melech finds the whole thing very irritiating, which I can understand. When you’re not in a lamentable situation, telling someone who is that “it could be worse” is among the more fruitless modes of cheering them up. (I wonder if she’d be just as annoyed if another single said it to her? “Hey, Bas Melech! Buck up – you’re in the best years of your life so why don’t you just enjoy them and forget the rest?” Let’s see what reaction that brings.)
I personally have never heard this from anyone, but then again, I don’t get much sympathy having, as I mentioned, a fundamentally flawed hashkafa. Is it a common comfort offered to singles? What other annoying attempts at sympathy do you get?