Surfed over to this blog post one fine day, which got me thinking about appearances in shidduchim. I’ve gone out with guys who ranged from gorgeous to gargoylish with just plain silly in between, but I’m relieved to say that I’ve never rejected a guy based on his looks. I figure a person can get used to anything, and someone has to marry these people, and who am I to complain if my date doesn’t look like a film star with his makeup on? I remember how, at the tender age of 12, I was enraged that Disney didn’t include Quasimodo in the closing nuptials of The Hunchback of Notre Dame. I figure I should put my money where my mouth was.
(But then again, who’d want to marry a guy who could pass as a gargoyle?)
There was a commenter recently who also insisted on gorgeous looks, to the general disdain of other readers. I confess, I’m a bit put off by appearances as the first criteria. I once turned down a guy because in his description of what he wanted in a wife, slim and pretty were the first items, and slim was underlined. But hey, it takes all types to make a world, right? Who was it who told me the story about the guy who wanted a trophy wife and the girl who wanted to marry someone rich, and they met, and lived happily ever after?
Anyway, this is a maundering post because when I was thinking about a title, I realized that I’ve done several posts on appearances, so there they are:
Say Shidduch – about the photograph business
Beauty and the Handsome – the benefits of marrying ugly people
Do Glasses Make You Ugly? – a poll
Dating Napoleon – about short men
Fat Potential – The weighty issue of girth
And then there’s Sporadic Intelligence’s response to the post cited above. (I humbly disagree. Being able to hold your own in an intelligent conversation means a person has a general interest in the world around them, which is a personality trait. Beauty is not, unless it’s carefully applied beauty, which is also a personality thing, but may say less about the person’s overall approach to life.)