This ‘toon here (thanks, Ez), reminded me of a post I’ve been thinking of now and then. It’s short and simple and doesn’t take much writing, so here goes.
E is an old friend of mine from way back. We share some friends, also from way back. We also both have many friends we don’t share.
This diagram is of each of our pools of friends coming out of seminary. Blue stands for friends who are single. Green stands for friends who are married. If it isn’t clear yet, most of my friends are married, and those that aren’t, for the most part, are also E’s friends. E has many other single friends. Which makes me wonder – is E a segula for staying single?
It should be noted that E is happily married herself.
Now, E belongs to a (this is painful, but sometimes labels are useful) more modern community. So do many of her (non-mutual) friends. This would suggest (from within our sample, which is obviously not random) that certain communities have a larger shidduch crisis. But our mutual friends, for the most part, are more to my end of things. This could suggest that E attracts weird, messed-up people who are incapable of forging long-term bonds with members of the opposite gender. Or wonderful people too ‘special’ to be easily appreciated. Or… or…
I don’t know, but it sure is weird.