Did the following scenario ever happen to you?
You go out with a guy and he seems nice enough, though not for you.
A few months or even years later you hear/see something verifiable about him that makes your eyelids flip inside out. What a jerk/creep/weirdo. He didn’t seem that way on the date. Phew! What a near miss!
Now, I know nobody is perfect. And everyone has lapses when they do/act/react in a way that they are appalled by and ashamed of later on. but some people do hide pretty unpleasant traits under a pleasant exterior. How the heck are you supposed to know how a guy reacts when he’s ticked off just by dating?