Recap: Mr. Keirsey divides the 16 Myers-Briggs types into 4: the Guardians, the Artisans, the Rationals, and the Idealists. He says most of the world belongs to the first two types, and some 20% or so belong to the latter. This effectively makes Rationals and Idealists weirdos. Or, I would prefer to think, rarities. (If this is what PNN meant in this post then I owe him an apology for a snarky reply.) Moreover, Keirsey says that people in the first set pair up while people in the second set should as well.
I believe this. You know those dates where you are just on completely different wavelengths? Like the guy I went out with who said that the only thing he regretted about being religious was not getting to taste shellfish. He also made fun of me because I said I liked the songs from Disney classics. Clearly he was very S (almost certainly an Artisan) and I am rather N (a Rational, in case you didn’t guess).
S-types think about things and N-types think about ideas. When Mr. S hears a Disney song he hears a well-crafted tune with lyrics. When I hear it, I hear an entire story representing a social theme. I, on the other hand, do not have his well-developed appreciation for good food. I am just as likely to get preoccupied and polish off the plate underneath. This is a gap that is difficult to bridge.
Therefore, it’s much easier for Ns to converse with other Ns and Ss to converse with other Ss. Heck, I know. Most of my friends are Ns. In fact, I would venture to guess that 98% of my single female friends are NTs. Ditto for my dates – that unending line of engineers, mathematicians, and economists.
Keirsey says we NTs are unlikely to be attracted to each other because we’re too similar. Yep, story of my dating career. Amazing conversation but… no third date. Why? Chemistry. Not the chemistry we talked about for three hours during the date, but the more biochemical type that involves pheromones.
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So who would be intriguing enough to pique my romantic interest? According to Mr. K, an NF.
I don’t have sufficient data on this one.
I only know a few NFs. One is definitely married to an NT [waves at mindy: “Hi!”]. Little Sheep is another. And I’m pretty sure that Chana and Erachet are, but I don’t know anything about their spouses.
In fact, I don’t know of a single female NT married to a male NF.
Actually, I don’t think I’ve ever met an Orthodox male NF. (Although now that I think about it, my college would-be beaus were NFs.)
Aha! I have found the true source of the shidduch crisis! Our community produces way too many Rational types, and not nearly sufficient Idealistic types to pair us all off.
Hey, it’s just as good as the other reasons out there, and no less intractable.
WANTED: Orthodox Jewish male NF for single NT…
I’m not the first person to try dating by Myers-Briggs typology. This guy tried it before me. And as far as I can tell, he’s still single…
Oh well. I’m still willing to give it a swing. Are you a single, male, NF? I’m officially asking you out.