Friday Repost: Don’t Do It!

I don’t believe in doing things just because they’re “good for shidduchim.” Conversely, I don’t believe in not doing things because they’re “bad for shidduchim.”

Let’s face it: if you’re the type of person who runs around and around in revolving doors for the sheer joy of it, the Women in Black who find this behavior offensive are not going to be able to help you. Or maybe they will: by setting you up with an equally offensive gentleman – perhaps someone who slides down banisters in his Shabbos suit just because they’re there.

And finally, if you’re doomed (and “doom” has “fate” in its etymology, meaning it’s predestined) to be single forever, it doesn’t matter what you do, so you might as well enjoy yourself.

An early inspiration of mine was Miss Klein. I think she’s still single. I hope she’s thoroughly happy.

2 thoughts on “Friday Repost: Don’t Do It!

  1. Related to that, anyone who really cares about the silly, nit-picky, insignificant checklist items and will actually turn down a shidduch because of them isn’t really worth going out with or marrying in the first place.

    Who would want to marry someone who believes that their spouse must be perfect, and any small inadequacy or weakness, which we all have in some form, would be a reason for criticism. On top of that, imagine trying to please his/her mother, who is quite likely behind the list of unreasonable demands/requirements in the first place.

    Unless he/she are conscientious objectors who are also being victimized/terrorized by parents/teachers/rabbeim, then if you can ascertain that they really don’t care about these things, then it may be worthwhile.

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