Like SerandEz blog, and discussions about shallowness in the dating community.
I have absolutely no excuse for posting that link except that I haven’t had time to write a post in two weeks, for which I apologize.
And, if you start on that one and sigh, try this next one on for size. There is some debate over whether it is family friendly (PG-13, methinks, for language), so don’t click if you’re very aidel. But here’s the gist of it (and the very best pull-quote):
We have to quit defining ourselves solely in relation to [non-existent] dudes. Like, “I am not me—I am some imaginary man’s imaginary perfect 10, plus 50 extra pounds, minus a 20-inch waist, plus a threatening commitment to feminism, minus any desire to pretend to care about bike polo! That’s me!” No, that’s not you. That is a weird monster you made up to torture yourself.
…Fundamentally, men are attracted to the exact same thing in women as women are in men: Confidence. Self-assuredness. Agency. Knowing who you are.
The author is probably single, but her point – that normal, non-supermodels get married all the time – is tacitly true.