I posted about Amy’s book about how to date before. Here’s her TED talk below. (Thanks, Doc.) It’s fun.
Amy believes that you should make a list and stick to it. It worked for her: she found a guy who checked her list and married him.
I made a list like hers once. I used it once to eliminate a guy who really was a bad idea (in retrospect). I forget where I put that list, though. And obviously, it hasn’t done more than eliminate men yet.
Conversely, we have Goldy Krantz saying that you should chuck your list, because the guy she married didn’t check hers at all, and the only reason she went out with him was because he sort of drifted into her life slowly, via the “friend” route. This one sounds easy: Just date everyone. Well, I do that too. Still single. This method doesn’t eliminate men, which is to say it sure does waste a lot of Sundays. Hasn’t panned out for me either.
I suspect the real truth is actually both of them, which is to say, whatever works for you. Or maybe a third way, which I don’t know about yet, because I’m still single.
Anyway, I’m a big fan of Amy’s, so watch her TED talk. It’s only 20 minutes.
Bad for Shidduchim 
Huge fan of lists. After four years of marriage I still spout the same reasons I appreciate my husband as I did when I met him. Even after discovering annoying/more than annoying qualities, the can’t-live-withouts are still there and make the marriage.