“I don’t want to go out with him again.”
“I don’t know, I just don’t.”
“But he’s such a good, smart boy.”
“He’s annoying. Or boring. Or had a bad tie. I don’t know! He’s just not for me, okay?”
Sometimes, you just know it isn’t going to work. It’s called a gut feeling, and it’s usually right. It might be self-fulfilling-prophesy right, but it’s going to be right, so there’s no point in arguing.
Still, sometimes you need a reason. Either for the pushy parents or shadchan, or for your rational self. Why oh why don’t you want to go out with this lovely boy again?
And sometimes the reason is stupid, because you’re groping. But that doesn’t mean you’re any less right.